As I get older I see more and more of the above scenario happening. I notice a lot of people who stay in their troubled relationship because it's better to have someone which you can stress, be sad about, argue with, etc than the prospect of sitting home alone on a Friday night twiddling your thumbs. The idea of being alone is a scary one and I'll admit that it use to scare me but at some point you have to come to terms with yourself and admit that it's not working out.
The relationships I'm referring to are the ones where you're significant other has annoying traits that just drive you crazy. For example flirtyness, cleanliness, having a big mouth, not respecting you, gold digger, and the list goes one. These are no way the classic abusive relationships such as physical violence but are at the same time big problems. I'm a firm believer that a person can only truly change themselves because they're doing it for themselves and not for another person.
If you've convinced yourself that they'll change for you if they love you then you can give up on that idea now. People are spiteful by nature and by letting someone know what bothers you the most is the same as Superman telling everyone that Kryptonite can kill him.
Sometimes the benefits do outweigh the costs but if you've had thoughts/wishes that your significant other would stop doing something which annoys you on a daily basis then you should probably end the relationship. The more time which you invest into the relationship the more you will feel obligated to make it work which leads to more time being invested thus creating a vicious cycle that could lead to a failed marriage. And don't think I'm exaggerating about marriage, I've seen it happen.
So take that jump off the cliff and into the waters. You never know what's in the ocean until you take a look.
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